Over the last 3 years, my mind has returned again and again to the idea of opening a yoga studio, building a community, bringing ease and peace to people’s bodies and minds, and reengaging with my St. Johns neighbors. And for the last 3 years this idea was merely a passing thought, a pipe dream.

2023 was a big year for me. The tectonic plates of my inner and outer life shifted in major ways and the idea of a studio, of course, revisited my mind. During a visit to southern California to be with family after a major loss, I went out with my mom for a drink and a laugh. We reminisced and mused as we do, and the conversation turned to the future. I hadn’t shared the idea of opening a studio with anyone, ever. It was too silly. Too out of reach. Too...

I shared with her my secret, spilled the beans on my pipe dream. And instead of scoffing or brushing off the idea as an unattainable, risky endeavor, she encouraged me. And I emailed Kay and Orlo the next day.

That was 6 months ago. Since then, I’ve worked on turning this idea into a reality. And I’ve done so with the generous help of friends, colleagues, and our favorite duo, K & O. I haven’t been alone on this journey and I am deeply grateful for that. Now, I am seeking help from my NoPo neighbors (and beyond!) to fully realize this dream.

I am asking for help to open the doors of Mija Hot Yoga. In Spanish, "mi hija" means "my daughter" and I felt that this name embodied the process of my personal growth. I have been raised by many mothers, as I think we all have; mothers in the shape of mentors, teachers, friends, or partners. Personally, I have felt nourished and raised by many people in my life and I honor them all through the opening and offerings of this space.

All the details about our retreat are here.
​Drop us a line if you have any questions!

For more tips on practicing with back pain, check out these posts:

• Cobra Pose (how to use your hands)
• Casey's story (avoiding back surgery)
• Kay's story (scoliosis and back pain)
• Mike's story (avoiding back surgery)

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For more about Awkward Pose, click here. 

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He's my third child, and his birth was something else.

With my first two babes, I woke up at my usual time in the morning and felt an inexplicable new feeling in my body. A couple hours later both times, my contractions began, and both times by 8pm there was a new kid in our house!

I'd been reminded throughout this pregnancy by my midwives and friends that third babies can come really fast. "Make sure you call us right away" they said. "Have a backup in case we can't get the tub filled in time," they said.

So while consciously I knew that every birth is different, the truth is I fully expected this labor to be straightforward and speedy like my others (or even-- I hoped-- faster!)

Which is why when I began having mild contractions on Saturday, I scrapped our weekend plans. But... by Sunday morning they hadn't gotten any stronger, longer or closer together (that's how you know it's really happening.) 

I let the midwives know what I was feeling, made some raspberry leaf tea, ate my 6 daily dates and settled in to wait.

I'll skip the details of my next 2 days and just tell you there's a thing called prodromal labor. It's like... the purgatory of birthing. It's like the myth of Sisiphus, where he keeps pushing that boulder up the hill and it always rolls back down.

Prodromal contractions can be uncomfortable enough that you can't concentrate on doing other things while they're happening, but unlike "real" labor, they can continue without progressing in intensity or frequency for days or even (gulp) weeks. 

Except that sometimes they stop completely and then start again. Oof.

Despite it not being my first rodeo, I was unprepared for this.

Or was I?

Faith

I had to tap into my faith a lot during my weekend of waiting for Satya. Faith in the natural process of birth, faith in my body, faith in myself. With labor starting and stopping I began to doubt myself: maybe it was wishful thinking? Did I will myself into having contractions before it was really the time? What if I got too tired and couldn't see this through to the finish line?

There was a moment just before I needed to push, where I said to my husband "I don't know if I can do this." As soon as I said it, I knew that I could. 

What we practice in Bikram Yoga class and in Pregnancy Yoga is repeatedly putting ourselves in this position. We're struggling, thinking "I don't know if I can do it" and then we prove to ourselves: we can.

Hatha (physical) yoga is about using our bodies to cultivate a relationship of faith (trust) with ourselves. And it goes so far beyond the physical realm.

Determination

In yoga, you might associate determination with "pushing through" or holding the pose no matter what until the end. But in fact, determination in yoga can often mean, NOT pushing through. 

I mean, if your breathing is all over the place and your pose is misaligned because you're too tired to use your muscles correctly, pushing through or "no matter what" isn't determination: it's just ego! 

So determination can also mean the commitment to doing what is truly best for you, and not letting ego get in the way.

During Satya's birth I used my determination in the "pushing through" sense. But I also had to stay determined to allow the process to unfold, without me (ego) trying to control it.

Denouement

The good news about prodromal contractions is that they help the body prepare for active labor and may even help dilate the cervix a bit. By the time my baby was finally ready to join us, I only had to push 5 times to get him out. 

Satya was born just after 8am that Tuesday morning, with one arm raised up next to his head like he was setting up for Standing Bow Pulling Pose! It's called a nuchal hand presentation. And maybe that was part of the delay, my body trying to nudge him into an easier position before he began his descent. 

Besides longer labors, other nuchal hand birth stories I've read often involve tearing, pain and long hours of pushing.

I can't say for sure if my yoga practice is completely responsible for my smoother experience, but I can tell you that besides walking the kids to school and a bit of swimming, it's the only exercise I've done for over a year. 

Here's how my pregnancy went:

• No back pain (none!)
• No swelling
• No fatigue
• Normal weight gain
• Normal blood pressure
• Normal blood sugar
• Cravings for healthy food
• Clear skin
• No stretch marks

Here's how I felt after Satya's birth:

• No tears
• No vaginal pain or soreness (none!)
• No incontinence
• Normal bathroom activities within hours
• Swelling gone in less than 24 hours
• Cramping gone in less than 24 hours
• Plenty of energy to take care of him

I was talking with my doula a few days later, and she said: "Every baby has something to teach you with their birth." I think Satya's lesson for me was that life is (still) full of surprises.

Every birth is different, even for the same mom!

I'm in no way claiming that if you practice this yoga our experiences will be the same.

What I do know though, and what any birth professional will tell you, is that having a healthy body and mind can only have positive effects on the kind of pregnancy and birth you have! There's so much in life that is beyond our control, but to a huge extent your health is up to you. 

Pregnancy Yoga ticks all the boxes for a safe and effective exercise regimen that will help you prepare for the birth of your dreams: It's zero-impact, moderate to low intensity, emphasizes breathing, tones the pelvic floor, strengthens joints, prevents back pain, builds stamina, improves balance and relieves stress. 

I felt so good during and after yoga that I practiced almost every day throughout this pregnancy. But you don't have to hit your mat daily to enjoy the benefits!

Even 2 to 3 sessions a week can have a huge impact.

So if you're expecting (or plan to be) find out more about Pregnancy Yoga here. We've got several classes and downloadable resources for you in our library here. And feel free to email me if you have any questions! I love helping out new moms and moms-to-be.

Always consult your medical provider before starting a new exercise routine.

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